Guest Post - I Hated my Twin

I am lucky enough to have a twin post, from the view of a twin, today from guest blogger, Kelsey.

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 Hate is a strong word, but it’s probably the best word to describe my feelings I had towards my twin
sister for a good, solid year of our life. We are identical girl twins, 7 minutes apart. I’m 3 inches taller
and she’s about 20 pounds lighter. She’s artistic and sensitive. I am outgoing and funny. Or at least I
think I am. For the most part we are day and night from each other.

We grew up doing the typical twin things: dressed alike, shared a room, shared friends and hobbies. We
didn’t get much of a chance to express our indivuality. As we neared the end of our teen year’s things got
a little weird. We were 17 and liked the same boys and the boys liked her. I started to resent her like any
typical teenage girl does. We went off to college together and things changed. The twin I was so close to
and knew like the back of my hand, suddenly changed. Long story short, I didn’t know how to accept the
fact she was fleeing from our little twin nest and becoming her own. I reacted by closing her out of my
life. We both lived down the hall from each other and avoided each other like the plague. It was pretty
hurtful that the same girl I shared a womb and then a room with, didn’t like me either.

Our families and friends were so concerned that they sat us down several times and attempted to smooth
things over for us. We fought it and went on to ignoring each other. Until one day at the end of our first
year of college, I got sick. I had an ovarian cyst rupture. At the time I had no idea what was wrong,
but I was laying in the fetal position crying and without hesitation I picked up the phone and called my
twin.

Within the first 3 words out of my mouth she knew I was in need of a hospital and next thing I know she
was carrying me into the ER. She sat by my bed all night and until I got better. Since that day we have
been joined at the hip as we once were. We now talk on the phone approximately 4.7 times a day and see
each other twice a month. We have never talked about why stopped talking and why we hated each other
but I think we both are glad it’s over.

So parents, as a twin here are a few of suggestions and tips. Allow your twins to grow up as individuals
Let them wear what they want, encourage them to make different sets of friends and get them interested
in different hobbies. Allowing them to be the same but separate will help them adjust later in life when
it’s time to grow up. If your twins fight, let them. Most likely they will get over it and reconnect. There is
a bond stronger than you can understand.

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Author Byline:

Kelsey is the editor in chief for findananny. She loves to write article and ideas that parents & nannies
would be interested in hearing. She helps society on giving information about nannies through nanny services. She is a professional writer & loves writing on any thing.